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Included with any program · Boundaries

The Warm No Card

The formula, and 5 scripts you can lift word for word.

Open your libraryOne page, printable. Yours with any program, along with the other six.

What’s on it

  • The three beats a warm no is made of: appreciation, decline, and no essay — plus the one-line pause to learn before any of them.
  • Five scripts, written out in full — the favor, the invitation, the guilt-trip text, the scope-creep ask, and the family comment.
  • What to say when they push back: a line for each of the five.

Print it and keep it where you take calls. The scripts are meant to be lifted rather than adapted. The exact wording is the part that took the work.

This one comes with every program, and so do the other six. The program built around this area is called The Gentle No.

Her Vanguard offers coaching and personal development. It is not therapy, medical care, or a substitute for either — more at hervanguard.com/support-resources. A boundary with someone you're frightened of is a safety matter rather than a wording problem. The National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, or text START to 88788, any hour, confidential.